Friday, April 25, 2014

What Our Words Reveal About Our Personalities


I've noticed that I tend to use idioms to express my feelings. For example, when I felt especially overwhelmed at work, I felt like I was knee deep in alligators. Recently, I heard an investigator on a crime show say "It was a hard nut to swallow." I had a good laugh at this mixed up metaphor (malaphor) as I imagined trying to swallow a walnut in the shell. Not just hard, impossible! Thinking about idioms made me think about my communication style. I remembered reading about this in Please Understand Me II,  so I decided to refresh my memory.

In PUM2, David Keirsey says there are two dimensions to understanding temperament - how we use words and how we use tools. By tools he means anything we use to accomplish our goals. Keirsey built on the work of Isabel Myers, who developed a questionnaire called the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator with her mother Kathryn Briggs. The MBTI identifies sixteen different personality types. Keirsey divides Myers' sixteen types into four groups - Idealists, Guardians, Rationals and Artisans. He illustrates how each group uses words and tools to accomplish their goals but also discusses the intellect, interests, self-image, and values of each temperament.


Understanding the Temperament Types

Our word usage can be described as abstract or concrete. Abstract words describe something that is apart from actual physical substance - emotions, ideas and physical attributes like beauty. Concrete words refer to things that are perceptible to the senses - actual objects or events that you can see or touch. If we have a cooperative nature, we try to get along with other people, to follow the agreed-upon rules, and to consider the wants and needs of others as we do whatever it is we do. If we have a utilitarian nature, on the other hand, we go about things in the most effective way possible - pleasing other people is a secondary consideration.

According to Keirsey, each of the personality types has an intellectual strength in one of four areas - Diplomacy, Logistics, Strategy or Tactics. Idealists have a Diplomatic intellect, which makes them particularly skilled at working with people in a sensitive, tactful way. Idealists are good at professions that involve transmitting ideas through words. Rationals have a Strategic intellect and a talent for identifying the best and most efficient way of achieving their goals; they are especially good at working with systems. Guardians have a Logistical intellect and a talent for acquiring, distributing, servicing and replacing material goods. Guardians are often found in the  business world (like me). Artisans have a Tactical intellect - not tactical in the military sense, but tactical in the sense of touching or manipulating physical objects. Whether it is painting or playing a game, Artisans are especially good at working with tools and equipment.

Understanding Our Communication Styles

In PUM2, the Keirsey listed a full page of "traits" that characterize each personality type. Unfortunately, Keirsey did not define what he means by referential, syntactical and rhetorical, though he gave a few examples throughout the text. I am not a linguistic expert by any means. In the chart below, I excerpted the language characteristics from his chart and added a column with my own interpretation of the labels in the left column. In the sections below the chart, I've summarized some of the communication cues I gleaned from the book. I paid particular attention to introverts because we are  often misunderstood because we are quiet and reserved.



SP (Sensory Perceptive): the Artisan (30-35%)
Artisans have been called the "Sensation Seeking Personality." The language of Artisans is harmonic or pleasing to the ear. Their referential style or mood is indicative, involving factual statements or questions. Their speech is descriptive, showing a preference for similes over metaphors. The language of Artisans is heterodox, that is not orthodox or traditional. Artisans use slang and colorful phrases. Artisans often express themselves through the arts or by creating things. Introverted Artisans may prefer to communicate through action rather than words and may find tools to be the most effective form of self-expression.


SJ (Sensory Judging): the Guardian (40-45%)
Guardians, the largest personality group, are the "Security Seeking Personality." The language of Guardians is associative, moving from topic to topic in a non-linear fashion. Their referential style is imperative, involving commands, directions, or admonitions. They use comparative figures of speech and enjoy using proverbs and idiomatic language. Their language would be considered orthodox or conventional. They avoid fancy speech or showy hand gestures. Introverted Guardians are dedicated and attentive to details, content to work behind the scenes. They are often misjudged as cold or stiff, when they really have good intentions.

NF (iNtuitive Feeling): the Idealist (15-20%)
Idealists have been called the "Identity Seeking Personality." Idealists use inductive language, moving from part to whole or from specifics to broad generalizations. Their referential style or  mood is interpretive and their syntactical style is metaphoric. The language of Idealists is hyperbolic in that they tend to overstate or exaggerate. Idealists often engage in creative writing or poetry, having great language abilities and a gift for imagery. However, they are not big on using logic and do not see things in "if this, then that" terms. Introverted idealists only show their emotional reactions with people they trust. They may be easily hurt because they feel so deeply. To protect themselves, they may withdraw from social contact.

NT (iNtuitive Thinking): the Rational (5-10%)
Rationals, the rarest personality type, are known as the "Knowledge Seeking Personality." Rationals use deductive language, moving from whole to part or from general to specific. Their words are categorical and definitive - everything must be classified and defined correctly. In fact, they may insist on defining words to control shades of meaning. They will even read dictionaries for fun and enjoy word play, like puns and paradoxes. Their language style is characterized as subjunctive or hypothetical, full of assumptions, probabilities and premises. Rationals also use a lot of technical language, reflecting their interest in science and technology. Rationals avoid speaking about things that are irrelevant or trivial and avoid stating the obvious. Rationals will suppress their facial expressions and body language because they like to appear unemotional. Introverted Rationals prefer to stay in the background and have a strong need for privacy. They use this quiet time to solve difficult problems.

My Own Communication Style: the Guardian Inspector (ISTJ)

I'm a hard nut to crack. In speech, the biggest influence on my word choice is my introversion. It is often a very inhibiting influence. I have to think before I speak. I don't like to interrupt people and I am not good at small talk. When I'm talking and more than a couple of people are looking at me, I'm like a deer in the headlights. But when writing, the expressive side of me comes out. I can think as much as I want and take as long as I want. I can jump from topic to topic and go off on a tangent and explore to my heart's content. I clearly have the associative thought process. Writing is a great outlet for me because I can compose my thoughts before I share them. I can even be comfortable sharing my words with people I don't know.


Saturday, April 12, 2014

Mount Morrison Challenge

John Gillingham, the leader of my athletic club's outdoor fitness activities, presents our group with new challenges from time to time. This year, he discovered a challenging trail in Morrison, Colorado that has about 2,000 feet of elevation gain in 1.75 miles. The trail is located just off of Bear Creek Road at Red Rocks Entrance #4. John is planning a group hike but I decided to try the trail on my own on Monday, April 7th against John's advice. My husband also tackled the trail alone on Friday, the 11th.

My Solo Hike on the South Ridge Trail
Mount Morrison Trail Head
Before my hike, I read a bit about the trail on the SummitPost website. I also read blog posts about other routes to the summit, including the Dome trail, but the South Ridge trail is apparently the most popular and "socialized" of the trails. The morning I hiked the trail, the weather was overcast and in the 30's. There was a light covering of snow on the ground but the lower portions of the trail were just wet. Looking down near the start of the trail, you can see the cables that run along the trail as well as the view of Red Rocks. The first part of the trail was steep enough to make me breathe hard.


After about a third of a mile, I met a woman running down the trail. This runnable section of the trail did not last for long. Later, there were some great views of the foothills to the west.




As I hiked higher, there was snow on the trail and I was grateful for the shoe prints of the runner I encountered coming down. However, when I got to the clump of lichen covered rocks in the photo below, I could no longer see the trail or my predecessor's footprints. It was also starting to snow again and the ground was getting slick so I decided to head back down. Round trip, it took an hour and 47 minutes for my IN-COM-PLETE pass up Mount Morrison.

just below my turn around point

Kent's Solo Hike to the Summit
In the photo below, you can see how steep the trail is at the start and how beautiful blue the sky was compared to Monday. What a difference a few days makes! The next photo shows the view of the foothills on a clear day.
Steep!


Before Kent hiked the trail, I asked him to take pictures beyond my stopping point so I could see what I missed. Kent did not recognize the green rocks I photographed. He did, however, take a lot of pictures of rocks! I would guess that it was somewhere around here that I stopped. I can understand why Kent could not see the clump of rocks I asked him to look for! The third photo shows a rock wall that I did not see on my ascent.







When Kent finally got around the rocks, which required some scrambling, he saw what I missed - the helicopter pad near the site of a helicopter crash four years ago. There was also some scrap metal, possibly from the old electric cog railway that used to run up to Mount Morrison from Red Rocks. The funicular was built by John Brisben Walker, a Jefferson County visionary, in 1911. In the third photo, the tree that doesn't look like the others is a cell tower according to a man Kent met at the summit.





Fake Tree
The next photo is a view to the west from the helicopter pad. Kent also took a picture of one of our first spring wildflowers, the Sand Lily.


Scree area
Sand Lily
Mount Morrison
Kent said that the rocky section at the top is a challenge. It is rated a class two hike requiring the use of your hands to help you up. He completed the 3.5 mile round trip Mount Morrison challenge in one hour and 54 minutes.

Monday, April 7, 2014

Spirit, Lead Me Where My Trust is Without Borders

I have been praying almost my whole life. Many of my prayers have been answered - for strength in my weakness, comfort in times of distress, hope when things seem really bleak, wisdom in my times of searching for the right answer. I learned a long time ago that my prayers will not always be answered in the ways that I hope. Even though I have faith that God hears my prayers, it is sometimes hard to accept when He does not provide the answer I want. This is especially true when what I want is something good for someone else.

For several years now, I have prayed for a friend who is paying the price for a tragic lapse of judgment. I have prayed for his well-being, his salvation and his freedom. But I have been disappointed that God has not yet transformed his life in the way that I hoped, especially because I know that God has the power to do so.

When you look up "unanswered prayers" on Google, you see a list of links to a Garth Brooks' song. Just because he may not answer, doesn't mean he don't care. Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers. In God's infinite wisdom, he knows what is best for us. He sees the big picture - we don't.
God's plans are a mystery to me. So I look to myself and question whether I am praying right when my prayers appear to be unanswered. Maybe I'm not praying often enough. Maybe I should get down on my knees instead of just talking to God wherever I am, whenever the Spirit moves me. Maybe I'm praying for the wrong things. Maybe I need to throw more praise into the mix.

The problem with this kind of thinking is that it ignores God's grace. God's grace does not depend on anything I can do. It does not require me to pray perfectly. This thinking also suggests that through my prayers, I can control what God does, when in reality, God is sovereign over all things. So as I look to God for wisdom, his word reminds me of three important things about prayer.

1. Pray faithfully. A faithless response to seemingly unanswered prayers would be to stop praying. I have faith that God hears my prayers. The words of James remind me to pray no matter what my mood is, no matter what the circumstances are. Why? Because the prayers of the righteous are powerful and effective. Even if I don't see the effects now.
The Prayer of Faith (James 5:13-16)
Is anyone among you in trouble? Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.
2. Pray that God's will be done. I have recited the Lord's Prayer so many times that the words do not always register. Yet this familiar prayer, the one that Jesus taught us to pray, has much to say about praying with God's sovereignty in mind. Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.

3. Wait patiently. Patience is not my strong suit. I am results-oriented - I want to see the results of my prayers immediately. However, I know that my timeline is not God's timeline. Sometimes He lets us go through trials and tribulations to teach us. When He at last lifts us out of the slimy pit of our misery, he puts a new song in our hearts. We learn to put our trust in Him.
A Psalm of David (Psalm 40:1-3)
I waited patiently for the Lord;
    he turned to me and heard my cry.
 He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
    out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
    and gave me a firm place to stand.
 He put a new song in my mouth,
    a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear the Lord
    and put their trust in him.


Jesus, I call on your name. You've never failed me. My patience has been tested - give me strength to wait longer. My faith is strong - make it stronger. May I not lean on my own understanding but trust your sovereign hand to guide me. Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders. Amen.





You call me out upon the waters
The great unknown where feet may fail
And there I find You in the mystery
In oceans deep
My faith will stand

And I will call upon Your name
And keep my eyes above the waves
When oceans rise
My soul will rest in Your embrace
For I am Yours and You are mine

Your grace abounds in deepest waters
Your sovereign hand
Will be my guide
Where feet may fail and fear surrounds me
You've never failed and You won't start now

So I will call upon Your name
And keep my eyes above the waves
When oceans rise
My soul will rest in Your embrace
For I am Yours and You are mine

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders
Let me walk upon the waters
Wherever You would call me
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander
And my faith will be made stronger
In the presence of my Savior

* Hillsong United